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The Five Love Languages
These five love languages are a brief summary of Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. Don't continue to run on empty. Learn to keep your love tank filled. Apply these methods to determine the love language of your spouse or children or anyone special in your life. 

Acts of Service:
Do you feel most loved when someone does something for you? Does your loved one feel most loved when you serve him or her? Your daughter may feel loved by giving her a ride to school, making her lunch, cleaning her room, or doing her chore when you notice she has an extra amount of homework. You may feel loved when your spouse vacuums the floors or fixes you dinner. This could be your love language if you feel special when someone serves you. 

Quality Time:
Do you feel loved when someone spends time with you? Does your loved one light up when you take him to lunch, when you sit next to him on the sofa to ask how his day went, he appreciates your interest in what he is doing and taking the time to watch the sports he is playing.

Physical Touch:
Do you feel most loved when you get a hug? Does someone in your life like to have her back rubbed or her arm lightly touched as you sit in front of the TV. What about holding hands? How does that make you feel? Physical touch is not about sex, it's about feeling loved by being touched.

Gifts:
Do you appreciate the thoughtfulness of a gift. This can be a card or a piece of candy or something more extravagant. Usually the person who is loved by gifts lights up with the smallest token that says, I love you.

Affirmation:
Everyone wants to hear positive words of encouragement and praise. There is the person that thrives on and feels especially loved by your affirming words. Their love tank is filled. The opposite happens when we use discouraging words and put downs. This person will take those negative words and feel defeated and unloved. Be careful how you use your words.

Try to figure out how you feel most loved. There are usually two that best describe your love language. Experiment with your loved ones to see how they feel loved as you love them in the different love languages. Ask your family which love language best meets their needs. When you describe each of the five love languages they will usually be able to tell you. Make sure you communicate your love language to others. Now start loving them according to how they feel most loved and watch what happens.

Luke 6:27
But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.